The Un-Blogger

I am not good at blogging. I don’t have much interesting to say, I can’t seem to stay on a good schedule, and I’m not the typical 20-something drop-dead gorgeous blogger. I work full time and maintain a household consisting of one husband and one dog, so I don’t devote the time to it that I should. All that being said, I wanted to share a few reasons why I started this blog and some things I will never do on my blog.

1) I love to write. Anyone that knew me as a child knows I always got good grades on essays, book reports, research papers, and anything else that relied on writing. A former boss always had me write different documents and SOPs, often saying “everything you write is so good.” I lack creativity however, so I would not have been a good novelist. Writing, even occasionally, for the blog, gives me a bit of an outlet for my love of writing.

2) I was feeling unfulfilled at my day job, and needed something else to think about and focus on. Struggling to understand how to set up a website with all the plugins, getting a theme, etc was (and still is) very challenging for me. It forced me to think and learn new things, something I wasn’t experiencing at work.

3) I struggle with fashion choices just like many others. As a 40-something that doesn’t want to look like an old lady, I find it hard to look age appropriate and not too young or too old. Admittedly, I often err on the side of dressing too young. But, if I can give even one person an idea for an outfit or piece of clothing or accessory they haven’t considered before, then that is the most I can ask for.

Some things I will never do on the blog:

1) I will never tell you to dress like me or wear certain styles or items of clothing. I may occasionally offer a tip that I personally think is worthwhile, but feel free to disagree. Style is very personal, and I believe 100% you should wear what makes you feel confident and comfortable.

2) I will never tell you you must spend a lot of money or buy certain brands of clothing to look good. I will occasionally splurge on something I really love, not because it is a certain brand, but because I truly love it. Mostly I shop sales, clearance racks, and end of season sales. I will pay full price at a couple of the local boutiques I like, but only because if you see something at a boutique you want, you better grab it because they don’t typically restock the same items.

3) I will never pretend to be something I’m not. Social media and blogs are a dangerous thing-we all understandably present our best selves online, but the perfect images on many social media accounts are not real life. I’m not rich, not wildly successful in the traditional sense, not fashion-model gorgeous, and not always bubbly and happy. Certainly I’m not likely to post about my worst days, but I’ll always try to be real. Many years ago, in high school, a classmate told me “you’re not phony like most of the other girls.” To this day that is one of the most meaningful compliments I’ve ever received.

4) I will write about random things. I started this endeavor with fashion in mind, because I was constantly getting compliments on my outfits. But I’ve discovered I have other things to say. So there will be travel posts, posts about my dog, and other random topics that strike my fancy on any given day.

So there you have it, the good, the bad, and the ugly. All I hope for is to get a few readers that find my writing mildly interesting.

Thanks for stopping by!

Beth

Friday Favorites-Random outfits

Happy Friday!  I never understand how the holiday season gets so busy.  I don’t have children or any family in the area, so shopping and commitments are minimal, but it still feels like I hardly have time to sit during the month of December.  I admire those of you that have kids and family activities on top of everything else, I don’t know how you manage all of it!

I had a few random outfits this week that I put together, and really ended up liking, so they are my Friday Favorites this week!  I tend to get stuck in a rut and pair the same items together all the time, or think I have to wear a certain item in a certain way.  I’m trying to be a bit more creative, which not only looks more stylish and interesting, but also makes you feel like you have a bigger wardrobe, when you learn how to mix and match things more effectively.

 

 

I wore this outfit to an event last weekend, it was casual but I still wanted to look stylish.  My first instinct would have been to wear a simple long sleeve t-shirt under this poncho, but I didn’t really have one that matched because the white is really an off-white.  So I had to get creative!  It’s pretty impossible to tell in the picture, but I wore an off-white cardigan underneath.  I ended up really liking how it looked, the cardigan has shiny buttons which gave it a much more interesting look than a t-shirt would have.  I like this poncho from Loft a lot, because it has actual sleeves rather than just a giant piece of fabric that goes over your head.  This one is from last year, I bought it on clearance over the summer.  But everything is on sale right now at Loft, and they have many ponchos to choose from.  The cardigan is a simple one from New York & Co.  They usually have every color of the rainbow and they are on sale a lot, I have a few in different colors, they are good to wear over dresses in the summer too if going somewhere that might be cool inside.

 

I love long cardigans, they are so comfortable and cozy in the winter.  This one from Eddie Bauer last year is actually a lighter weight, so I wore it on a day when it wasn’t too cold here.  I just threw it on over a simple tank top, put on a necklace, and was ready to go.  I wore these mules from DSW, they are comfortable and a versatile taupe color.  The shoes are actually the part of this outfit outside my comfort zone – normally I wear this sweater with the same pair of boots every time, but since it wasn’t cold, I decided to try the mules and really liked the look.  The jeans are one of my favorites, also from Loft.  Loft denim runs large, so take that into account when shopping.  (My helper is at it again!)

 

I’ve had this faux fur vest from Old Navy for years and years.  It seems like every couple years they become popular again.  I’ve always struggled with how to wear it, but found that I really liked it with this off-white-but-slightly-tan sweater dress from Abercrombie & Fitch.  I actually wore the vest as my coat that day, because it wasn’t too cold and this was enough for the short walk I have into work.  My office tends to be chilly, so it was also nice to have something I could put on without the bulk of a sweater or jacket.  I found a similar vest at Target, for a very reasonable price!

I purposely cut off my legs in this picture because I wasn’t crazy about the tights and boots I wore with this dress.  I’ll have to get creative with my lower half next time I wear this dress!

I would love to hear from you in the comments about outfits or looks you have discovered and how you are creative with styling items you already own!

Have a good weekend, thanks for visiting!

-Beth

 

Flowing Dress

Happy Wednesday! Hope y’all are having a good week. We are gearing up for several holiday events this weekend, plus the Buckeyes in the Big Ten Championship game. It will be a busy, but fun, weekend.

I wanted to share this loose, flowing dress. I bought it last year from Loft, so the exact one isn’t available, but here and here are a couple of similar styles. I love the bell sleeves and because this dress is loose, it will hide anything you might not want to show.

The dress is a dark (but not navy) blue, and has almost an eyelet-type detailing around the neckline. It is so comfortable, but so stylish at the same time.

I laughed at this picture, because I was trying to showcase how loose the dress is, but instead it ended up looking like I am wearing a tent! I’ve just got to get better at this photography thing. It’s harder at this time of year because it is dark all the time, so I can’t do photos outside and the lighting inside is so awful.

I paired it with these over-the-knee boots by Marc Fisher, in a taupe color. It took me awhile to warm up to this style, but once I finally bought them, I really liked them. It is hard to wear them with jeans because they just pull on with a small zipper on the side, so the hem wants to ride up inside the boots while pulling them on. But with dresses they are perfect.

I also had a helper with this picture! He didn’t understand why I wasn’t taking him for a walk, not that he is spoiled or anything!

This outfit is simple, but still fashionable, and appropriate for a variety of situations. I love dresses, even in the winter (with tights), because they are so simple to style and look put together. I used to hate them, and would only wear a dress to occasions that absolutely called for one. Now I can’t get enough of them and wear them every chance I get. So if you are anti-dress as I was, give them another chance and look around for a style that suits you. I’ll be showing some more of my favorites as the season goes on.

Enjoy your day and thanks for visiting!

-Beth

Friday Favorites – Turkey Day Fashion!

Happy Friday!  Or should I say, Happy Six Days Until Thanksgiving!  This week’s Friday Favorites is a little hastily written, as somehow the week got away from me and I didn’t have a lot of time to plan it out.  I want to show a few of my favorite styles for Thanksgiving.  Every family or group of friends does Thanksgiving a little differently – some are formal, some are sweatpants-casual, and some are in between.  I have a few ideas below for some great Turkey Day outfits in a range of styles.

This outfit leans more towards the casual side, but is still very stylish AND comfortable, which for a lot of us, is very important on a day with lots of food!  The camo leggings are a few years old, but still very popular and easy to find.  The field jacket is from Old Navy, I featured it in this earlier post.  Throw on a plain t-shirt in a neutral color, or even a cute graphic tee, and you are fashionable, comfortable, and prepared for cooler weather or potentially being too warm and losing the jacket.  I would either wear this with some neutral booties, or for even more comfort, some stylish sneakers, like Converse or Adidas.

I love this cozy vest from Bearpaw.  It looks great with jeans, a skirt, or even over a dress.  The color is so neutral it can go with almost anything.  Some cute booties or even over the knee boots will give this vest a lot of style.  If your weather will be chillier for the holiday, this would be a great choice.

This flannel plaid dress is so stylish and on trend.  Plaid is so big this fall, and I love wearing this with some thick tights or leggings, and riding boots.  You could also do a bootie or even a cute winter boot if it is cold and/or snowy where you live.  The belt also keeps it from looking too oversized and gives it shape.  This is from Eddie Bauer, and the flannel is extra thick and therefore very warm.  I got this last year but they have some similar ones here.  This would “dress” up your look a bit for the holiday. (See what I did there)

This picture didn’t come out great, because I couldn’t find a good dark background.  This is a cream colored sweater I bought last spring on clearance from Loft.  It is a crossover or wrap style, and is so soft and luxurious feeling.  This looks great with some black dress or ponte pants, and black booties, if your Thanksgiving gathering is more dressy.

And just for fun, if your gathering is super casual, here is where you can find some great comfy cozy lounge clothes!

Everyone have a Happy Thanksgiving, wherever it may take you!

Friday Favorites

Hey y’all, I want to start a Friday series, called Friday Favorites, where I highlight a few things that are currently on my “favorites” list.  I don’t want to limit this to apparel or fashion items, I want to talk about whatever strikes me at the moment!  This week I want to talk about local businesses I have discovered and enjoy browsing.

I have posted about these bracelets before, but I’m still loving my handmade bracelets from Average Day Designs.  They are a company local to where I live, and the bracelets come in so many colors and designs, anyone could find something they like.  They are getting ready to roll out a line of necklaces, and I am so excited! I also noticed recently they had a couple of men’s options – I almost ordered one for my husband but wasn’t sure he would be into wearing jewelry, lol!  Maybe I will see if I can win him over.  See my previous post on these bracelets here for more information.

One local boutique I really like is Threads.  They don’t have a website but are on Facebook.  They do a weekly series called Trending Tuesday, the videos highlight items in the store and are entertaining as well!  I’ve only recently discovered them, but have already purchased a few items.  They have affordable prices, and a good selection of casual and trendy items, in both missy and curvy sizes. I purchased the blue top below a few weeks ago, and I love the ever-popular off the shoulder style. The angled hem and tassels make this piece very eye catching.

Also from Threads is this ombré purple/mauve top, again with the trendy tassels and uneven hemline. I purchased the matching leggings as well, to give me another option besides jeans with this shirt. The photo lighting distorts the colors a bit, but the leggings really do match! The top was actually on a 50% off rack, so it pays to browse the sale items even at a boutique.

I love this casual top, also from Threads, with the fun saying on the front. I wore this with some joggers last weekend and was 100% comfortable and cozy. The top is a super soft t-shirt weight and has the cold-shoulder cutouts, so I probably won’t wear it once it gets really cold, but it’s perfect for a lazy, casual fall weekend. I do not subscribe to the thinking that over 40 means no more graphic tees!

The other local boutique I have begun to frequent is BohoBlu. They also offer unique, boutique shopping at affordable prices. They have a website so if you aren’t in the Triad, you can still check out their items online, and they also carry missy and curvy sizes.

I bought this dress at BohoBlu; I absolutely love these colors for fall. I bought the leggings at Threads, so this dress can carry me into the winter as well. It is super comfortable while still looking stylish enough for work or to go out.

You can probably tell I like comfortable clothing! I do not like to spend my day tugging and pulling at my clothes because they are uncomfortable. Being stylish is important to me (most days anyway😂) but not at the expense of being miserable. I bought this last top at BohoBlu; once I tried it on I was in love. It is so soft, and has an oversized, slouchy fit, and will be perfect for a chilly weekend day. It is actually a very pale green, which didn’t translate well in the photo. I’ll likely wear this with some plain black leggings, or maybe even skinny jeans if I’m going somewhere more exciting than the grocery store! I’m almost, but not quite, looking forward to a chilly day so I can wear this top!

I always thought boutique and local shopping meant expensive, but that does not have to be the case! All 3 of these businesses offer style at an affordable price, and support my local community as well. It’s a win-win!

Next week I’ll be rambling about something different in the Friday Favorites series, so please come back and check it out. Thanks for stopping by!